|Grandmother Shari & Baby Valbjorn|
September 7th, 2017 National Grandmother’s Day
What Makes a Good Grandmother?
Let me relay to you a cute story I read recently:
I saw a want ad that caught my eye. It read: Wanted: ONE GRANDMOTHER. The job sounded easy so I decided to answer the ad and see what it was all about.
Several hours later I found myself at the address given in the ad. As I knocked on the door, a very quiet voice told me to come in. To my surprise, I saw a young boy about eight years of age, dressed in a business suit and sitting behind a large oak desk. I was there, I told him, to apply for the position of grandmother. “Well,” said the boy looking at me critically, “just what are your qualifications?” “Qualifications?” I asked. “Well, you see, I don’t know. I’ve never been a grandmother before.”
“First,” said the boy, “you must be old. Everyone knows that grandmothers are old.” “Old? How old?” I asked. “At least forty,” he replied. “That should be old enough. Then what?” I asked.
“Well,” he said, “you gotta be smart. You must know all the answers to all the questions that I am going to ask you while I’m growing up. Also,” he went on, “you must be able to keep a secret. I’m sure that there’ll be lots of times when you will see me doing things that I shouldn’t, but grandmothers are not supposed to snitch on us little kids . . . especially grandkids.”
“Keep a secret?” I knew that might prove problematic at times. “There’s one more thing,” said the boy. “You would have to have a great big heart full of love and would have to love and understand him even though at times it would be difficult,” the boy stated very matter-of-factly.
“How much does a grandmother get paid?” I finally asked. “PAID?” he shouted. “Who said anything about getting paid. Grandmothers don’t get paid for anything. They just give a lot.”
I couldn’t believe it. Who in their right mind would want to be a grandmother, I wondered. All that work, all that love, all that giving, and for what? All for nothing!
I got up to leave, fully decided that this wasn’t the job for me. But just then I caught a hopeful look in the young boy’s eyes, a look of trust and admiration. And then I knew why so many people wanted to become grandmothers. In fact, I determined right then and there to be a grandmother someday too. Who knows, maybe if I work at it real hard, I might even qualify.
Becoming a grandmother is simple. In fact there’s really nothing to it. One day (or night) you receive this excited call from one of your birth children or children-in-law telling you that you are a grandmother. You quickly go to the hospital where you examine each miniature feature and wonder how much of his/her mother, father, grandmother, and so on was tucked into the embryo of his/her personality. Unashamedly you brag to anyone willing to listen about the beautiful baby who has just made you a grandmother. But being a grandmother is much more than carrying a pound of pictures in one’s purse to show to unsuspecting acquaintances or suspecting family and friends. One has to get on with the job of grandmothering.
But, what are the ground rules for grandmothers? There’s an over-abundance of books on parenting, but what’s a grandparent to do? Surely God’s Word has some ground rules for grandmothers that are applicable to the 21st century.
Upon closer examination of Paul’s writings, I discover a grand-mothering manual of sorts in his letter to Titus, superintendent of the churches in Crete. (Titus 2:3-4) Paul told Titus to teach the older women their responsibility to the younger women and children. Now, who would those older women be but grandmothers!
· Be Reverent in Behavior
Reverent is defined as feeling or showing a solemn respect. So this kind of grandmother has a respect for all of God’s creation and demonstrates that to her grandchildren in very simple and practical ways. She shows her grandchildren the beauty of the first buds in spring, teaches them to appreciate the songs of the birds, to point out the beauty of the distinct yellow of the Finch and she delights in popping the first strawberry of the season into their mouths. She knows that pretty rocks, seashells, even broken ones, and dead moths found by little boys and girls should be
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This grandmother respects the members of her family and is sensitive to their natures and needs. She is careful to make sure that her in-law child is just as highly regarded, recognizing each one as a divine gift. Her behavior says, “You are wonderfully and fearfully made and I love you.”
· Teach What is Good
g about grandma, they’re also learning about God, her creator as well as theirs.There are many places besides a classroom to impart knowledge. It may be in a car, at the kitchen counter, sitting on a couch, lying on the bed, or walking along the shore. Grandmothers never say, “Now, let me teach you something.” Rather they are more likely to say, “That reminds me of when I was a young girl,” or “You know what?” or “Let me tell you about the time . . . “ In these small chunks of time she can pass on fragments of God’s wisdom, truth, and love. At the same time grandchildren are learning.
This grandmother teaches by who she is, by the pretty table she sets, the television shows she watches, and the fun things to do at her house. There is no conflict between what she says and what she does. And in order to teach, she must constantly learn – from God’s Word, wholesome books and other resources.
· Encourage to Love
A grandmother encourages young ones to love by loving them. She prompts them to love their parents by loving their parents herself.
This second generation mother knows that attention is a form of love. She listens attentively to accounts of imaginary friends whether they be dragons or other children, and later to the successes and losses of little league games. She laughs at silly jokes, even oft-told ones, and when appropriate, sheds an understanding tear. She knows that in so loving she will be loved back.
It’s common knowledge that she will talk about her grandchildren at the drop of a Kleenex, but this grandmother, most of all, talks about them regularly to her loving Heavenly Father who knows and loves them more deeply that she.
She recognizes that she is most often one of two in the life of each grandchild and she doesn’t compete for attention or undermine the love of the other special grandmother in her grandchildren’s lives. By such actions she is teaching that love is not jealous and doesn’t seek to please only herself. She knows that God has made each of us with a large capacity for love and that each grandchild can love each grandmother and be the richer for the love of each in return.
These are the ground rules in God’s guidebook for grandmothers:
· Live Reverently
· Teach What is Good
· Encourage Love
My prayer is that God will enable me to be that kind of a grandmother to my precious grandson, Valbjørn, as well as you to each of your grandchildren.
|Message by Shari Hervold|
Now clear your throat and take a deep breathe --prepare yourself to sing along with some of the famous Gospel Song.